I have a post up at The Soccer Moms today, about my struggles with juggling multiple sports schedules:
Juggling Schedules Is Not for the Weak (click link)
When I started writing this, I was irked about something a coach had said to my son and discombobulated because practice days for one of our sports had changed on us causing conflicts that hadn’t previously been there with another sport, but as I got further into the writing, it took a different path. I’ve come to the conclusion that that there is no blame to place, it’s not the coaches fault (though I can do without the comments to my kid) nor is it mine as a parent. The bottom line is that life is hard and full of challenges and when you have multiple kids and full time jobs and other extracurricular activities, it gets even harder. Add in the fact that the full time job and the activities take place in different cities and the hard magnifies by a bazillion. It’s impossible to be in more than one place at a time, but it’s also impossible to not strive to give your child as many opportunities to grow and learn and participate as possible.
Credit should be given to those (many of whom are also parents) who give their time to coach (paid or volunteer) as well as to the parents who do everything in their power to get their kids where they are supposed to be on time and to those kids who many times are changing uniforms in the car but still work their butt off once they get there. Everyone needs to see the other’s side and be supportive.
It’s called teamwork for a reason. And as we all know, when you have kids, it takes a village.
Today she is 5. An age she’s been counting down to be…“Am I 5 tomorrow? Or the next day after the next day after the next day?”
Five is a milestone, in many ways, for both of us.
For me, I’m that much older and removed from the baby making phase of my life. That ship, long sailed.
For me, it’s not only watching but letting you do your own thing, like your hair styles. You no longer want me to put your hair in pigtails and forget about bangs. You told me (didn’t ask) you were growing “these things long” when you were barely 3.
For me, it’s often buying new shoes because you outgrow them faster than you wear them, and missing the times when I not only couldn’t keep socks or shoes on your tiny, tiny feet, but you didn’t need them because I mostly carried you.
For me, it’s relishing each moment you gain more independence, but wishing for the moments when you needed only me.
For me, it’s realizing that while you will always be the baby of the family, you are now such a big girl.
For you, it’s excitement over starting Kindergarten soon, and doing your own homework.
For you, it’s about being “big”, and faster and stronger to keep up with your brother and being “big” like him.
For you, it’s about being the same age as your best friends from school.
For you, it’s about the birthday crown your teacher made, the cupcakes and pink pancakes I made you for breakfast, the Barbie fashion show dress up singing and dancing birthday party.
Five is a milestone, in many ways, but for both of us, no matter how old, wise, big, smart, sassy, or far away you are, you will always be my baby, my little shadow.
So today you are 5. And we celebrate you.
Happy birthday to my favorite girl in all the land. I love you, love you, love you, baby doll.
I’m over at Things I Can’t Say today, venting about people who tell me stuff I clearly already know. Because it’s been one of those weeks. Tweet
I’m over at The Soccer Moms with a guest post on how playing a game can’t always be answered with a number. Tweet
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