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An Ear Piercing Quandry

A good friend of mine let her 5 year old daughter get her ears pierced because “she (the child) wanted and it and she looks so cute”. Her almost 7 year old daughter didn’t want to get it done and she made fun of her by saying she was “too scared” to do it.

I found that distasteful (both the fact that she let her 5 year old get her ears pierced and that she made fun of her other daughter) and said as much. We’ve been friends for 15 years and she doesn’t pull punches when she has an opinion about something so I figured I could express myself, but she was ticked. I’m not sure if she is ticked at me for not agreeing with her or if she is ticked at herself for her own actions and I know it’ll pass but it put a damper on my day.

Ear piercing probably never would have hit my radar if I wasn’t pregnant with a girl baby but now that I’ve thought about it, there is no way my daughter is getting her ears pierced at 5. No way. I was 13 when I got my ears pierced and that seems reasonable to me. I asked my hubby what he thought and he agreed. So then I asked another good friend, the mother of two little girls, one of them my 6 year old goddaughter, and both she and her hubby also agreed.

I’ve known people who pierced their infants ears as well but I never understood it. Our children grow up too fast these days as it is, so why not try to make sure they enjoy their innocence as long as they can? Why “age” them prematurely?



  1. I have Baby G. convinced that there are certain laws out there that dictate when you're allowed to do things.

    You can have Hannah Montana bedding when you're 10.

    You can chew bubble gum when you're 18.

    You can listen to Katy Perry when you're 21 (she heard the song "I Kissed A Girl" once and MEMORIZED THE LYRICS).

    You can have Bratz dolls or Moxie girls when you're 30.

    The list goes on…

    Someday she's going to discover that I'm making this stuff up, but so far it's working.

    Fortunately she hasn't asked about earrings. I had my ears pierced when I was 7 — surprising, since my parents were ultra-conservative. I was super proud of my little hoop earrings. Until the key I wore around my neck caught in my right earring & tore it straight out. Maybe I'll tell her that story….

  2. I HATE seeing tiny babies with their ears pierced. Especially with all the ear tugging I now know they do when teething.

    I had to wait until I was 13 too and even though at the time I thought that was totally unfair because all my other friends had their ears pierced, I now think it was a perfectly reasonable age. Kids these age grow up way too fast as it is, why push it along?

    I applaud you for saying something and I would bet your friend probably felt bad about her parenting decision.

    Just because your 5 year wants ice cream every night for dinner doesn't mean they get it! I mean, c'mon, people, be a better ambassador for parents!

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